HOW TO DEAL WITH TOXIC PEOPLE

Do you ever had a hard time dealing with someone you know? Not that you are unsocial but becausw that specific person makes you feel uncomfortable and keeps on speading negative vibes? Let's just say that you had talked it out and you already gave them advices on how to deal with their problems and spoonfed them with positivitt everyday. Is that person starting to be a baggage? Backbites everyone? Boastful? Inconsiderate? If all your answers are yes then let's get straight to the point on how to handle them with this 3 steps. 😉

STEP 1:"UNFOLLOW" 


Let's all admit no matter how we try to avoid these kind of people they are all over social media. Some people also have a different attitude in their personal lives and on facebook. You want to clean your slate but you don't want to hurt other people's feelings as well, so the best way to do that on facebook is just to simply click "UNFOLLOW" . If you are actually into the journey of minimalism you choose what you'll see on your feed. What you see everyday  actually affects your state of mind. For example you had a nice sleep and just finished your daily morning walk then you suddenly check your facebook and VOILA! day ruined because of all her rants for for the entire world to see.

Remember guys! Facebook isn't your diary it isn't even a good place to post your problems in life on your wall. Remember your life is yours and it is up to you if you wanted to keep it private and stop backstabbing people to make you their everyday topic. 


STEP 2:"IF THAT PERSON IS YOUR CLOSE FRIEND TALK TO THEM AGAIN"

Real friends will accept your hardest slap but it depends on the stage of your friendship. They may have hard feelings towards you but atleast you have told them what actually bothers you on your friendship, what makes you feel uncomfortable and if the both of you can actually work it out. Let's be realistic, we know that our "toxic" friend won't change after minutes of deep conversation but come to think of it they will already consider to filter some thoughts before relaying it to you. They'll be more careful and maybe sensitive. It's one step and patience is actually the key. 


STEP 3: "EMPTY YOUR MIND AND THINK THAT NOT ALL PEOPLE ARE THE SAME"

The last step is probably not the easiest because humans are actually born to symphatize. So we are unable to disregard those negative vibes brought by other people. Try to meditate, a simple breathe in and out actually helps and everytime your friend starts to bother you with toxic conversations think that this person isn't the same as you. They have their own soul, they have their own coping mechanism and that personality of your friend can't be easily turned off. We all have different perspectives in life and we have different ways in living it. In my own  experience this 3rd step actually helped me in dealing with them.  Let's say you already did step 1 and step 2 but you can't cut your ties with them. This isn't a reality tv show and you can't just ditch someone so fast. You can actually distance yourself by not ending your friendship. Keep everything moderate and learn to handle your friendship with your own pace. 

💖💖Remember:💖💖
It is actually up to you on how you handle  these kind of people, not everyone has the same struggle so let's all be kind to one another and be understanding as possible. 


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